People Suck — Including You and Me
Most of our lives are spent making bad decisions fueled by our worst impulses and emotions. It’s not because we’re evil. It’s because we’re emotional creatures trying to survive in a world that constantly tests us.
Childhood: Acting on Impulse
When we’re kids, almost every decision comes from how we feel in the moment.
We don’t have experience, discipline, or emotional control — just raw feelings.
That’s why kids throw tantrums, scream, or lash out when things don’t go their way. They’re acting on instinct, not logic. And that’s fine — they’re still learning.
Adulthood: Kids in Grown-Up Bodies
Then we grow up — at least physically.
But mentally, most of us are still those same kids, just playing by society’s rules.
We know what’s right and wrong — morally and legally — but we still make dumb decisions.
Why? Because the same impulsive inner child is still running the show.
The only difference is that now, that child has access to stronger desires, addictions, and distractions to keep feeding their cravings.
Why We Keep Making Bad Choices
If we can tell right from wrong, and we know what’s good for us, why do we keep chasing instant gratification?
Because nobody ever taught us how to strengthen our rational self — the part of the mind built for reason, discipline, and self-control.
Rationality: The Hidden Dragon
Being rational sounds boring — maybe even robotic — but it’s one of the most powerful things we have.
Rationality is the king or queen of your inner world. It’s the version of you that can silence emotional noise and make smart decisions that lead to growth, success, and stability.
But when rationality goes unchecked, it becomes cold and paranoid — a version of you that’s safe but lifeless.
That’s why your rational self needs balance. It should work with the other parts of your personality — wisdom, confidence, grit, and joy.
Together, they make choices that consider both logic and emotion.
The Balance of Power
Picture your mind like a round table:
Rationality has a power level of 5
Joy, Confidence, Wisdom, and Grit each have a power level of 2
When Rationality listens to its generals but keeps the final say — the kingdom stays in order.
That’s how balance works: a ruler who’s firm but fair, logical but human.
ADHD: When the King Gets Overthrown
For people with ADHD, that balance doesn’t last long.
Our rational king or queen gets overthrown all the time — by emotions, impulses, or distractions.
Sometimes Joy takes the throne, chasing instant gratification.
Other times, Desire and Chaos run wild, making reckless decisions in Rationality’s place.
The result is a mental kingdom in constant conflict — a mind that wants peace but keeps falling into war.
The Takeaway
To survive — and to stop being a person who sucks — we have to build and train our rational side.
Not to suppress emotion, but to guide it.
Your rational self should be strong enough to lead with reason but wise enough to listen to feeling.
Don’t let your impulses, fears, or cravings overthrow your inner king.
Because when reason and emotion finally learn to work together — that’s when you stop reacting and start evolving.